Benefits of Boundaries – and how to set them – Part 1

In this helpful article, Madelyn Griffith-Haynie discusses setting personal boundaries: “Emotionally healthy people set Boundaries that attract certain people and protect them from others.” Please, read on…

ADD . . . and-so-much-more

Boundaries safeguard your personal rights
. . . and so much MORE

© Madelyn Griffith-Haynie, CTP, CMC, ACT, MCC, SCAC
from the Coaching Series

Does YOUR Castle need a Moat?

Found HERE

Think of a Boundary like a moat around your castle.  It’s actual purpose was to keep scoundrels, bandits and warlords out and the people inside the walls safe to go about their lives and pursue their interests in peace.  That works!

During times of danger and conflict other friends and neighbors around the countryside could come inside the castle for protection.  A drawbridge spanning the moat provided a way for the keeper of the castle to let people in or keep people out.

So it is with happy, successful lives.

It is important to find a way to establish and maintain a safe distance from needs of other people that are not in alignment with our own best

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12 thoughts on “Benefits of Boundaries – and how to set them – Part 1”

      1. This may be actually BETTER, John – it gives the post a new life just when things are settling down. In any case, ANY reblog is a great reblog – regardless of timing.

        btw – left a link to your Silent March post on a “Black Lives Matter” blog that posted the same graphic, but no history. I’m sure she visited – and I hope it was healing for her to see that she is not the only one commemorating, calling for change with increased velocity.

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        1. I understand about breathing new life into a blog. Happy to help! Not sure if your friend visited that blog post or not. Trump is out of control now that he’s losing both the public opinion polls and Congress votes – I heard he’s urging police to use brutality when they see fit. Whatever happened to the rule of law?

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          1. “Not-MY-president” is showing his true and hateful colors more and more as time passes – and more and more people are finally admitting (at least to themselves) that it was a HUGE mistake to put him in office. The man is truly a menace!

            The best outcome, in my mind, is that the Electoral College will finally be disbanded.

            THEY elected him, after all, so they can no longer maintain that they are “cooler heads” who know better what we need and want than “We the People” (who did NOT elect him, I continue to remind everyone – we vote for the people who vote for the people – it is currently not a DIRECT system).

            That would render Gerrymandering obsolete as well (political “redistricting” to give more Electoral votes to their particular party when they come to power on the state level).

            I continue to hold that thought that the “good” politicians will spearhead a movement to to give the entire corrupt political system a good sanitizing as a result of seeing just HOW bad things can get as a result of their power-grabbing attempts. I hold the thought that “good” Americans will no longer vote corruption into office to begin with.

            Now THAT would be some mighty sweet lemonade indeed – I have no taste for sour Orange-ade.

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            1. Well said! I think the Electoral College has long outlived its usefulness. There are no living, breathing members who meet to vote – it’s totally a numbers game – if I win the popular vote in Florida, I get all of Florida’s Electoral College votes. Once upon a time, there were real people in the Electoral College who met and decided. I honestly think that despite all of Trump’s crude bluster, many voters actually believed he was going to clean things up in Washington. I knew he was a demagogue and that would never happen. I hope you guys get rid of him before he does irreparable damage and that this will truly be a wakeup call for voters.

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              1. I join you in your hope – and was not a supporter from the beginning because I took the time to become aware of his record of [not] keeping promises – and how many times he’d lied.

                FAR too many Americans (and most of the Republican party) simply believed his nasty-spirited tweets. Lies repeated often enough are usually accepted as truth – unfortunately.

                I believe that the D.s misunderstood the meaning of “taking the high road” and failed to counter the negativity effectively or often enough!

                But the Democratic Party needs to wash its hands as well. Politics as “usual” can be redefined if we insist upon it.

                We all need to politicians who will make choices for the *entire* country in the future. I hope it won’t take the election of an Independent or write-in candidate to let the politicians from BOTH parties know we are beyond tired of having to vote for the “least worse” offering. But I’m for whatever it takes – as long as the revolution is peaceful.

                “Holding them accountable” is our job, however – emails, letters, phone calls, etc. – and naming names! The energy of the vibrations alone will do *some* good, but swamping their in-boxes etc. will let them know what we are “vibing.” 🙂

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                1. What frightens me is that he’s been undermining the veracity of the News Media since day one as the most effective way to get away with whatever he wants. All he has to do is bleat “Fake News”. The Media used to be the People’s Watchdog. Protesting and filling politician’s Inboxes will help, I’m sure – except with Trump and his rabid cohorts.

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