Advice and Boundaries

Madelyn Griffith-Haynie gifts us today with an article that stopped me in my tracks. The topic is about giving Advice and it boils down to… “BOUNDARIES, boys and girls, THAT’s the segue here: setting them, expressing them, honoring them, restating them, bribing others to honor them…” Please, read on…

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Linears and  Holographics
Different strokes for different folks

by Madelyn Griffith-Haynie, CTP, CMC, ACT, MCC, SCAC
Reflections Post to introduce an upcoming Boundary Series

WHY won’t everybody LISTEN?

Found HERE

We humans are funny critters. We want everybody to do everything OUR way.

Secretly, we sincerely believe that whatever we have figured out effectively for our own lives would transfer to anyone else’s — if they’d only DO IT RIGHT, gol-nabbit!

The same advice is meted out to tortoises and hares, linear and holographic thinkers alike, depending on who seems to be currently doing better in the races we like to time.

THEIR problems would magically disappear with OUR solution,
IF ONLY they’d:

  • try hard enough
  • give it enough time to become habitual
  • “want to” badly enough
  • stop resisting
  • or procrastinating

 — or really wanted a solution and not simply a chance to complain!

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John’s Believe It Or Not… July 24th

In 1534 – Jacques Cartier erects a 10 meter high cross at Gaspé and claims Canada for France. In 1911 Machu Picchu discovered. In 1915 Hundreds drown in Eastland disaster. In 1998 Saving Private Ryan opens in theaters. In 1982 “Eye Of The Tiger” from Rocky III tops the U.S. pop charts.

Oh-Oh! It’s Monday! Did you know…

* 1534 – Jacques Cartier erects a 10 meter high cross at Gaspé and claims Canada for France. (At forty-three years of age, Cartier was a stocky man with a sharply etched profile. His calm, steady, thoughtful eyes under a high, wide brow held a hint of power. His face, slightly hawk-billed with a beard that bristled defiantly, was normally calm in contemplation of the sea, but easily roused to rage and violent action. Some contemporary records call him a Corsair, meaning he roved the seas despoiling the enemies of France. Cartier was a skilled mariner, a full-fledged, fearless navigator who was held in high regard by seafaring men. He may have voyaged to Brazil. When he married in 1519 he had risen high enough in his profession to be called a master pilot. He was known as a capable and courageous captain who was fair in all his dealings. He was fully knowledgeable of everything concerning ship handling, especially making sail. Considering he made three voyages of discovery in dangerous and hitherto unknown waters without losing a ship and considering he entered and departed from some fifty undiscovered harbors without serious mishap, it can be assumed he knew his craft as captain well. Continue reading “John’s Believe It Or Not… July 24th”

John’s Believe It Or Not… July 23rd

In 1914 – HMS Rainbow escorts Komagata Maru out of Vancouver. In 1983 – Gimli Glider – Air Canada 767 runs out of fuel in midair and makes emergency glide landing. In 1996 U.S. women take home gymnastics gold. In 1878 Black Bart strikes again. In 1967 Detroit Riots Begin.

It’s Sunday! Did you know…

* 1914 – HMS Rainbow escorts Komagata Maru out of Vancouver. (On this day in 1914, the Komagata Maru arrived in Burrard Inlet. The Japanese tramp steamer carried 1,500 tons of coal and 376 would-be immigrants from the Punjab in India. Continue reading “John’s Believe It Or Not… July 23rd”

John’s Believe It Or Not… July 22nd

In 1915 – Sir Sandford Fleming dies at 88. In 2003 Jessica Lynch gets hero’s welcome. In 1598 The Merchant of Venice is entered on the Stationers’ Register. In 2005 March of the Penguins debuts. In 1793 Alexander Mackenzie reaches the Pacific Ocean.

Yay! It’s Saturday! Did you know…

* 1915 – Sir Sandford Fleming dies at 88. (Sir Sandford Fleming, (born Jan. 7, 1827, Kirkcaldy, Fife, Scot.—died July 22, 1915, Halifax, Nova Scotia, Can.), civil engineer and scientist who was the foremost railway engineer of Canada in the 19th century. Continue reading “John’s Believe It Or Not… July 22nd”

#GuestAuthor John Fioravanti

Tina Frisco has given me the great honor of being interviewed on her blog today. While you are visiting Tina, be sure to take a good look around and join me as one of Tina’s many followers.


John FioravantiJohn Fioravanti is an author and blogger who has a background in teaching high school history. That alone (teaching teenagers) should garner him a medal for bravery! John and I have a lot in common and have taken to referring to each other as ‘bro’ and sis.’ So please welcome my brother, John Fioravanti!
My sincere thanks, Tina, for this opportunity to be interviewed on your lovely site. I am truly honored. 

It’s my pleasure, John. I am delighted to have you as my guest. 

Buy John’s books HERE

Tell us a little about yourself.  I am a self-published author living in Waterloo, Ontario. Retired nine years, I worked for thirty-five years teaching students to write well in my history courses. That led to my first published work, Getting It Right in History Class, by a small educational publisher in Barrie, Ontario. I am married to Anne for forty-four years…

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Time management tips for better Executive Functioning

Madelyn Griffith-Haynie provides us with a wonderful and practical plan for making your day productive and as stress-free as possible. This is helpful for anyone who wants to own their own days! Please, read on…

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EF Management Tips and Tricks – Part IV
Time Management Systems to Develop into Habits

by Madelyn Griffith-Haynie, CTP, CMC, ACT, MCC, SCAC
PART FOUR: In support of The Executive Functioning Series

Quick Review:

In the introduction to this part of the article, I went over some of the concepts underlying the systems approach and why it works.

Basically, systems and habits help us conserve cognitive resources for when they are really needed. I added the caveat that nothing works for everyone any more than one size fits ALL very well.

For those of you who have the motivation and time to figure out how to make an “off the rack” outfit fit you perfectly, be sure to read for the sense of the underlying principles and tweak from there to fit your very own life.

If you can’t “sew” and are disinclined to take the time to learn (since

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John’s Believe It Or Not… July 21st

In 1896 – Canada’s first Edison Vitascope showing at Ottawa Electric Railway Company’s West End Park. In 1925 The “Trial of the Century” draws national attention. In 365 Tsunami hits Alexandria. In 2011 NASA’s final space shuttle mission comes to an end. In 1865 Wild Bill Hickok fights first western showdown.

It’s Friday! TGIF! Did you know…

* 1896 – Canada’s first Edison Vitascope showing at Ottawa Electric Railway Company’s West End Park. (Two Ottawa-born, nineteenth-century entrepreneurs, Andrew and George Holland, were midwives to this cultural phenomenon. Thanks to them, Ottawa was among the first cities in the world to witness motion pictures. The Holland brothers were business associates of Thomas Edison whose company invented the kinetoscope, an early motion picture machine. While conceived by Edison, the invention was largely developed by his employee William Dickson in the early 1890s.  Continue reading “John’s Believe It Or Not… July 21st”