Not my shame

Bethany K shares her painful and shocking story of sexual abuse as a child. She instructs us about where the shame and responsibility for these acts belong. Please, read on…

NOT MY SECRET...My story...My truth

*graphic sexual abuse detail trigger warning.

*photograph of me looking in the mirror by me


The things that have been done to me are NOT MY SECRET. The things that have been done to me are also NOT MY SHAME.

“Such shameful things should not be spoken of,” she said.

“You don’t need to tell everyone the nitty gritty of what happened to you,” he said.

”No one wants to know the details of the abuse,” they said.

“You are tarnishing the family name,” she said.

“You are making us look bad,” he said.

“You are going to hell for what you have said,” the wife of the man who abused me said.

I DID NOT CHOOSE TO BE ABUSED! THE DETAILS OF THAT ABUSE ARE NOT MY SHAME. THEY LIE ON THE MEN THAT COMMITED THE HEINOUS ACTS AGAINST ME!!!
Abuse was inflicted upon me. It started when I…

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Smorgasbord Laughter Academy – Confusion reigns.

Again, Sally Cronin has gifted us with some funny stories to carry us smiling into our weekends!

Smorgasbord - Variety is the spice of life

Let’s head into the weekend on a lighter note…We all get a little confused sometimes and need to talk it out.

A physician, an engineer, and an attorney were discussing who among them belonged to the oldest of the three professions represented.

The physician said, “Remember that, on the sixth day, God took a rib from Adam and fashioned Eve, making him the first surgeon. Therefore, medicine is the oldest profession.”

The engineer replied, “But, before that, God created the heavens and earth from chaos and confusion, and thus he was the first engineer. Therefore, engineering is an older profession than medicine.”

Then, the lawyer spoke up, “Yes, but who do you think created all of the chaos and confusion?”

A police officer at a speed trap pulls over a car he clocks creeping along at 22 miles per hour.

Approaching the car, he notices that there are four old…

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Standing FOR High Standards

What are Personal Standards? Madelyn Griffith-Haynie gifts us with a fresh and practical look at an old concept. Please, read on…

ADD . . . and-so-much-more

Indications of who you really are
Creating your Reality

© Madelyn Griffith-Haynie, CTP, CMC, ACT, MCC, SCAC
from the Coaching Series

Higher or Lower?

Several years ago I posted a couple of coaching articles written to open your paradigms on the way to breaking loose from the habit of perfectionism and black and white thinking:

The Virtues of Lowering your Standards
and
Getting to Good Enough

And now it may seem as if I am encouraging you to do the exact opposite. Sheesh!

It’s a trick of language – two different meanings for the same word

When I speak of “lowering your standards” (small “s”) I am using the meaning most similar to, “an idea or thing used as a measure, norm, or model in comparative evaluations.” ~ Google Dictionary

Using that meaning of the word, I am referring primarily to getting beyond that crazy idea that “any…

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John’s Believe It Or Not… August 4th

In 1701 – Louis de Callières signs “The Great Peace of Montreal” with 38 Huron and Iroquois chiefs. 1944 Anne Frank captured. In 1753 Washington becomes Master Mason. In 1927 Country legend Jimmie Rodgers is recorded for the very first time. In 1964 Slain civil rights workers found. 

It’s Friday! TGIF! Did you know…

 

* 1701 – Louis de Callières signs “The Great Peace of Montreal” with 38 Huron and Iroquois chiefs.

(In 1701 the French concluded a peace agreement with the Five Nations IROQUOIS, bringing to an end almost a century of hostilities marked by atrocities on both sides. CHAMPLAIN inaugurated this series of military expeditions and guerrilla raids in 1609 when he joined a war party of ALGONQUIN, MONTAGNAIS, and HURON against the MOHAWK of the Lake Champlain region. He had inserted the French into the pattern of North American aboriginal warfare in the interests of the fur trade monopolists. There ensued successive indecisive expeditions against Iroquois villages under governors COURCELLE in 1665, LA BARRE in 1684, and DENONVILLE in 1687. It was only in 1696 that Governor FRONTENAC was able to stop the Iroquois raids on New France and destroy the villages and food supplies of the Onondaga and Oneida.
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Spotlight Thursday – Meet Stella

Interview: Meet John W. Howell’s cat, Stella. She keeps Lucy and Bailey in line. Please, read on…

Piglove

Spotlight Thursday

Welcome my friends to SPOTLIGHT THURSDAY.  This is the time that I will introduce you to one of my fellow anipals so you can get to know them better.  Some of them, you may already know.  We hope that you enjoy this series!


Name:   Stella Mc Cormick

Age:  15 years

Location:  Mustang Island, Texas

Web/Blog Page:  http://johnwhowell.com/

What were your first thoughts when you met your new parents?   When i saw my mom for the first time I was living with my four siblings in a woodpile out in the woods. My birth mom was feral and my adoptive mom captured her and all the kids. We were only four days old and my new mom took us in and fed us with a bottle. She had my birth mom fixed and released back to the wild. We stayed with our new…

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Spotlight Thursday – Meet Bailey

Interview: Meet Bailey – John W. Howell’s now-famous pet! This is precious – please, read on…

Piglove

Spotlight Thursday

Welcome my friends to SPOTLIGHT THURSDAY.  This is the time that I will introduce you to one of my fellow anipals so you can get to know them better.  Some of them, you may already know.  We hope that you enjoy this series!


Name:    Bailey McCormick

Age:  Seven Years

Location:  Mustang Island, Texas

Web/Blog Page:  http://johnwhowell.com/

What were your first thoughts when you met your new parents?  It was so long ago. I was born on Mustang Island and went to my forever home when I was just eight weeks old. I see old photographs and believe I was a happy  puppy. I can’t recall when I first laid eyes on my parents, but I can tell you they sure loved me as evidenced in all the photos and the fact I am totally spoiled.

What was the defining moment when you knew you…

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Anecdote – The Horrific Accident. A real story.

Opher Goodwin shares his experience of a horrific car collision that could easily have ended in death for himself and his two sons. Please, read on…

Opher's World

Sometimes you have to stop and take note. Sometimes chance was on your side.

It was a Thursday night in March. A cold, dank, wet and miserable evening with little to redeem it. I had an evening class that I was running. I enjoyed it. I was taking an adult education class in the History Of Rock Music. It was very successful. I had a very passionate group and we were having fun. It was the second time I had run the course and both times had proved popular. It involved me playing a lot of very loud Rock Music and talking about where it had come from and why it was so important. The course lasted two hours with a break in the middle of twenty minutes where we had a drink and an informal chat. As a group we had become quite close. There was an easy atmosphere. But even…

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